I just got back from a weekend at the parents. Today ended on a really bad note. As I said in a previous post, I had promised my mom that I would pay their electricity bill. Well after looking at my finances and realizing that I would be shelling out around a whole lotta moola this week for my sister's wedding, I came to the conclusion that I wasn't gonna be able to afford to pay their $332 electric bill. So as I was packing up to leave my mom asked me if I paid the bill. I told her that I had not. I explained that I had a lot of things to pay this week and that since the electric bill wasn't due until the 24th, that I would see how my finances looked then and let her know if I could pay it. She responds, "If you ain't gonna pay it now then forget about it". And then starts going off on me.
Are you serious?!! Because I won't pay the bill NOW you catching a tude with me? I am furious at this point. After all I have done, she got the nerve to act like I am this heartless daughter who won't put up 2 cents to help out her family. I am digging myself further and further into debt for them and this is my thanks. Of course my sisters are looking at me crazy and saying how they can't believe I did that to her. Did what?? Ask for a little time so I can gather up my finances before I put myself another $332 deeper into the black abyss that is debt. Oh......my bad! Guess I should have jumped in with both feet.
Needless to say they ain't speaking to me. Five days before my sister's wedding and it comes down to this. I feel that I had every right to do what I did but that still didn't stop me from feeling real shitty. But then I cleaned out my daughter's closet and drawers and realized that she can't fit majority of the clothes and that she is now a size 12 in shoes. Luckily I did a little school shopping and bought larger clothes so she is set for this week. But my baby will need more clothes and shoes. And since I have been going solo for the last two months I really didn't buy that much groceries. I just got what I needed. So now we need food cuz she likes to eat. And I also have to start paying for her school again. The list goes on. And as it does I am feeling less and less shitty at having put my foot down. My daughter needs me. If I can't provide for her who the heck will. Moms can't understand that then on well.
*sigh*
Are you serious?!! Because I won't pay the bill NOW you catching a tude with me? I am furious at this point. After all I have done, she got the nerve to act like I am this heartless daughter who won't put up 2 cents to help out her family. I am digging myself further and further into debt for them and this is my thanks. Of course my sisters are looking at me crazy and saying how they can't believe I did that to her. Did what?? Ask for a little time so I can gather up my finances before I put myself another $332 deeper into the black abyss that is debt. Oh......my bad! Guess I should have jumped in with both feet.
Needless to say they ain't speaking to me. Five days before my sister's wedding and it comes down to this. I feel that I had every right to do what I did but that still didn't stop me from feeling real shitty. But then I cleaned out my daughter's closet and drawers and realized that she can't fit majority of the clothes and that she is now a size 12 in shoes. Luckily I did a little school shopping and bought larger clothes so she is set for this week. But my baby will need more clothes and shoes. And since I have been going solo for the last two months I really didn't buy that much groceries. I just got what I needed. So now we need food cuz she likes to eat. And I also have to start paying for her school again. The list goes on. And as it does I am feeling less and less shitty at having put my foot down. My daughter needs me. If I can't provide for her who the heck will. Moms can't understand that then on well.
*sigh*
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I hope things end up working out before your sister's wedding!!
But hindsight is always 20/20. At this point it might be a good idea to sit down with the folks and have that chat about what financial support, if any, they can expect from you at this time. $332 is a lot of money for 25-yr. old with a child to be paying for a bill neither you, nor your child, incurred.
Good luck with your fam Dimples. It sounds like an extremely stressful situation.